FOR MY BEST FRIENDS;;
FOR DILLON & CASEY;;
FOR MY PARENTS;;
FOR JESSICA/ROOMY, I THOUGHT OF YOU WHEN I SAW THIS;;
FOR THE BITCHY NEIGHBOR;;
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
I got to thinking about relationships the other day, as I sat by my lonesome on the beach. Picking up grains of sand and trying to figure it all out. There are those relationships that open you up to something new and exotic, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. Sometimes loving yourself can be the hardest relationship to endure. I remember thinking I was so in love with someone when I realized you have to be with yourself before you can be with someone else. And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
I Like...I Hate...
I like boys with a funny personality and girls who are not fake.
I like doing nothing with someone, but still having fun.
I like wearing rings.
I like feeling at home.
I like how I can be myself with my best friend.
I like feeling control by having a camera in my hand and snapping the perfect shot.
I like the O.C.
I like the feeling of my Ugg slippers on my feet right now.
I like becoming obsessed with an outfit and wearing it 4 days straight but hanging out with different people so that they don’t realize I wore it the day before.
I like getting ready for parties with your best friend, listening to dance music.
I like the stage of a relationship when everything is new and exciting and there are so many questions.
I like stories about how people in love met, and engagement stories.
I love looking forward to an event.
Today I decided to lay low and enjoyed every minute of it.
In some ways, I love everything.
I hate when feeling guilty when I complain. (but still needing to complain)
I hate sloppy drunk people.
I hate people who think they are better than you.
I hate wallaby shoes.
I hate realizing I am wrong in a situation and having to admit I am wrong.
I hate tacky clothing choices you made a year ago.
I hate people who cry when they see you, but in a way, it's humbling.
I hate when you really admire someone, but they hardly know you at all.
I hate when your life feels like a Skins episode.
Unrealistic
“I do know that if I don’t ask you to be mine, I’ll regret it for the rest of my life”
[Runaway Bride]
“I love that you get cold when it's seventy degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend a day with you I can still smell your perfume on my clothes, and I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.”
[When Harry Met Sally]
“I think I’d miss you even if we’d never met.” [The Wedding Date]
“You had me at hello.” [Jerry Maguire]
These are all lines from a genre of film I affectionately refer to as… Chick Porn. Why chick porn? Well when put into context of how we, as women, view “regular porn, ” as unrealistic portrayals of a man’s idealistic view of a woman, it’s exactly the same. Chick Porn is a woman’s unrealistic view of an idealized man. We watch these movies (currently Runaway Bride is playing on my TV) and develop these subconscious expectations of our boyfriends, husbands, or future spouses. When life is less glamorous than breakfast at Tiffany’s, we blame the guy, when really we bring this upon ourselves. I’m not implying we should all swear off romantic comedies and dramas (obviously, I’m watching one even now), but I do think that we should be aware of how they affect us. I know for some friends, this means that they literally cannot watch movies that make them lust after a fictional scenario and for others it means bringing the knowledge of reality to the forefront of their minds and not holding anyone accountable to ridiculous expectations.
Life is not a movie, much to my dismay. You don’t always meet your soul-mate dancing in the rain or on the observation deck of the Empire State Building, but who wants to be in love with a story? The real thing is better.
Monday, December 27, 2010
Old Work
This one is kind of hard to explain. I wrote this a while ago trying to explain everything I felt. All my thoughts poured out on paper. I love re-reading the way I thought. I found some old thoughts. Reminds me of what I have overcome. This one is the most positive one I found.
I really like to play up people's hands. We use them so much everyday. I think hands can change the world. I think hands show a lot of emotion. This one is basically the whole reason of peace. I have the peace sign and then the background represents the peacefulness of earth. Things that came about from nature. Interpret the heart ring the way you want.. For me, it used to represent something I had with someone.
My all-time favorite. It makes me so unbelievably happy. Exposure is the number one key. I just want to enjoy everything in life. I want to remember love and peace and life and memories and this picture; I don't know why it is just amazing!
Road of life. Obstacles we face. The vines and branches are everything we have met. I like this. It shows there is a light at the end of the journey. It keeps going. It never ends. This path was in Hilton Head. I loved it. It was the most relaxed I'd been in a while. I was going through a hard time then, and when I took this it reminded me I just needed to keep fighting.
This shell meant a lot to me. I'm not sure if the person who gave this to me will remember, but I felt like this shell was a symbol of our relationship. The circle keeps going until it has to end. It can't go on forever, even if I thought it would go a little longer. Even if the end was sharp and confusing. It's still beautiful to me.
Spent most of the day watching The O.C.. I just can't get enough of that show. I guess it's a safe place for me. Whenever I'm upset, or something is bothering me I tend to turn to it. It just puts me in a completely different mindset and takes me away for a little bit. For anyone who wants to escape, just watch this :)
LIES
How to Detect Lies
Become a Lie Detector
Warning: sometimes ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.
Introduction to Detecting Lies:
Signs of Deception:The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
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• A person who is lying to you will
avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.
Also see our article on micro expressions & lying.
Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.
Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”
• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.
• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.
• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.
• The use of distancing language. 
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.Other signs of a lie:
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.
Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues must be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie.
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